The Content of a Mess….Actually 2!

One of my businesses requires my absence from my home. Often I get multiple jobs one after the other with very little time off and then I drop and run. I, as most of us, do the best I can.
I had a mountain of clean laundry tossed in a half bath covering the toilet and flooring. I had a mountain of dishes I needed to do. I run 3 businesses and have very little time to set aside to clean up big messes…..or so I say!
I told myself enough is enough and these piles were getting done NOW! So I got them cleaned up. Not only that but I am keeping the messes from forming in these two areas. Messes are sneaky little bastards. Kind of like playing wish playdoh. Until, that is you deal with the cause of the messes: shame, guilt, fear in your mind.
The moment I got the dishes done I started to have a return of an old issue: abandonment. I continued on and got the mountain of laundry taken care of. The moment that was handled the toilet started to fuss up. Water issues are emotional issues 100% of the time. So that was another clue: emotional attachment to abandonment….this was coming together “nicely”.
I handled the toilet issue, am continuing to keep the laundry and dishes up then I went in for dental surgery during the height of sage allergy season. The dentist needed to increase my anesthesia and I had a reaction to that on top of the reaction to the sage and I was a F’ng mess for 8 days straight. And what was causing it all in 3D was a bigger emotional issue was surfacing: Giving my all for no results!!! It hit me like a ton of bricks and walloped my butt good. I was down for the count!
This was what caused the mountain messes and leaking toilet and me getting sick. It hit me that hard. It was what I was suppressing. The Perfect Storm!
We coaches live our lives to guide others past their mental blocks and hallucinations. We go to hell and back for our coaching clients. We are tough mothers. I teach for free in broad strokes on the groups and happy to do so. Over the years, however, all of us who are doing the same realized many come on the groups wanting free coaching and use various tricks to get what they are after. To us coaches demise. Out teats are sucked dry literally! I noticed this and stopped it pronto! In fact all of us came to the same conclusion and stopped it at the same time. No free coaching!!!!
Coaching cannot be done on an open group. It is a delicate, personal, and intimate mental procedure that has to be done one to one privately. What my coaching clients receive far outweighs the amount being paid. Our true payment is our clients awakening and success which has no monetary value.
Going back to giving all for nothing…..we take the ultimate risk, us coaches. We stand as the tall nail, state loudly our Truth to the sleeping multitudes and many start waking up. Confused. Mystified. Feelin alone. And keep quiet until they get their bearings. We still continue no matter if anyone says anything about what we are talking about knowing that many read and listen and are appreciating what we are saying.
However, the ego in us tells us we are wasting our time. That we are talking to air. That we are fools. WE DON’T TAKE THE BAIT!!! And, somewhere in me personally I stored the emotions from taking the bait in the past. In one situation with my former SP this past May. It hurt like a son of a bitch!
So, CLEAN UP YOUR MESSES!!! This is what is pausing your good and your growth. Don’t believe me…just do it and see what happens. Go ahead…do it! I double dare you and then come back here, if you dare, and report your findings.
If you live in a controlled antiseptic environment then look at all the messes you have in your relationships. If you say there are none then what I want you to know is you are too damned controlled and isolated! LOL .